Try This Simple Three-Step Plan
For many of us, it’s very easy to give compliments, but not so easy to graciously accept them. It’s common for many to shy away, or engage in self-sabotage by downplaying what we’ve been complimented on. However, not taking a compliment well may ultimately offend the person who gave it to you, and it gives the idea that you may not be worthy of the compliment after all.

So, how should you take a compliment? Try following this simple three-step plan:

1. Acknowledge it. If someone compliments you, tell them thank you.  Smile at the person who gave you the compliment and make eye contact to show your appreciation. You can also add a general phrase like, "That is very kind of you, thank you" or “I really appreciate that.”

2. Include others. If you receive a compliment on a job well done and you didn't do it alone, make sure to give credit where credit is due. You can say something like, "John was a tremendous help with the project. I couldn't have done it without him."

3. Be honest. Respond honestly to a compliment. You can tell the person giving you the compliment a little bit about your success. For example, you could say something like, "I worked extremely hard on this project, so 'm glad it turned out the way it did." This shows that you acknowledge the compliment and are thankful your effort was noticed.

Above all, resist the urge to belittle yourself. Avoid downplaying what you’re being complimented on, and remember that you are not being arrogant by accepting a compliment. Practice the easy methods above, and take pride in your positive attributes!


“You can't let praise or criticism get to you. It's a weakness to get caught up in either one.”

—John Wooden